What does the Mourning Heart mean?
The Mourning Heart is a visible symbol of grief after a death. Created by death doula Kathleen Gallacher of The Everafter Collective, this black enamel pin gives people a gentle way to communicate:
“I am mourning a death. Please be gentle with me.”
Why make mourning visible?
Grief is often invisible. Someone may return to work, school or everyday life while carrying a profound loss. The Mourning Heart invites patience and care without asking the wearer to explain their grief each time.
When can I wear it?
There is no timeline. Wear your heart whenever it feels right: in the early days after a death, on meaningful dates, or years later when grief feels close. Pin it to clothing, a bag or a hat. You decide how and when to share this part of your life.
What if I see someone wearing one?
Offer gentleness. You might say, “I see your Mourning Heart. I’m thinking of you.” Let the person choose whether to talk, and avoid asking for an explanation.
A thoughtful sympathy gift
A Mourning Heart can be a lasting gesture of care for a grieving friend or family member. Each pin includes a card explaining the symbol. Offer it without pressure to wear it, and let the recipient decide what feels comfortable.